Comments on: Road Closed http://johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/ I just blather on and on about stuff that interests me, mostly politics and sex and sometimes movies and art. Sun, 19 Jun 2011 14:42:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 By: laocoon http://johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-84 Sat, 22 Apr 2006 05:34:05 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-84 Ya know, I hate to say it, but I buy into the American Dream myth just enough that a lack of money or money worries will flatten my libido right down to the nub. If I’m shutting down/off like I think I am, maybe my burning hunk of love is turning into a smokey pile. Ykkk. I don’t like to think about that, but worried about money and emotionally shutting down does make me feel much less like sex. I don’t think I’m the only one by any means, and in fact think that’s more common among men than men would like to admit. Oddly, men are always ready to discuss their conquests and near misses, but rarely do we discuss the downturns and disappointments. This seems so fucking personal to put in a blog on the internet, but it also seems like it’s something that ought to be out there to discuss openly. It’s just facts of life. Just … the deal.
As an aside … and I think this is somewhat personal to me … sometimes the very fact of my disinterest, my unavailability, seems to attract some women. That’s just so weird to me. I’m always thinking: where are you girls when I’m hot? And, the answer is, of course, that being hot is precisely what they are NOT looking for. It’s like a challenge or a conquest for them. It always makes me wonder about the relationships gay men and priests have with women who are attracted to unavailability. Yikes! I also recall that when I was married and wore my wedding ring on ALL occasions, there was also a certain small percentage of women who took that as a personal affront and don’t mention it again, we can get past all that. “Are you a fanatic about it?”, I was once asked when I demurred with an “I’m married” and pointed to said ring. What the hell’s a guy SUPPOSED to say? I still declined that night, but … dang … life’s a long strange trip, Jerry.

]]> By: dzaster http://johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-83 Sat, 22 Apr 2006 02:02:18 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-83 Yeah, well, at least you’re a burning hunk of love.

]]> By: laocoon http://johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-82 Fri, 21 Apr 2006 17:50:42 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-82 I’m liberated in my depression

]]> By: John X http://johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-81 Fri, 21 Apr 2006 17:43:30 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2006/04/21/road-closed/#comment-81 Question:

Is the phrase “It just doesn’t matter” tremendously depressing, or tremendously liberating?

Maybe that’s a better question to ask the Oracle Of Del(City)phi, but I’m axing YOU.

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