Comments on: "Tis Spring and a young man's fancy … http://johnrlong.com/2007/04/10/tis-spring-and-a-young-mans-fancy/ I just blather on and on about stuff that interests me, mostly politics and sex and sometimes movies and art. Sun, 19 Jun 2011 14:42:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 By: laocoon http://johnrlong.com/2007/04/10/tis-spring-and-a-young-mans-fancy/#comment-295 Wed, 11 Apr 2007 05:11:30 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2007/04/10/tis-spring-and-a-young-mans-fancy/#comment-295 Dearest B.
Keep your day job, you literal Austrian, you.
I am not necessarily a reliable narrator of my own life on these pages and a great many posts are more about a moment of time rather than a considered opinion. I am also a writer of other kinds of fiction — check ‘em out on the panel to your right.
Bored on a Sunday night is not necessarily also bored on Friday night nor even a Tuesday as I await a court appearance tomorrow.
There is a flaw in your reasoning elsewhere: if I was addicted to falling in love and that’s what I wanted, why have I simply not asked out anyone for a long period of time, as also blogged hereabouts?
Seems like if I just had to have that rush, I’d go out looking for a fix.
Perhaps if I used words like “ennui” and “existential angst”, I would have come closer to the mark than “bored”. For that, I am sorry, but I’m unaccustomed to such close readings and I intended the tone to be somewhat jocular and less a formal statement of my personal philosophy.
Finally, please forgive me one more personal failing: I rather live in gloomy frames of mind at times and it’s better for me to vomit it out on these pages and then go back later and see it for what it is than to spend another 10000 Euros on my shrink. He’d just laugh at what few problems I have these days anyway.
It’s why I call him “Jolly Dr. Max.”
I find I often pay him to ridicule me and my notions.
Much like Mistress D, the yoga teacher who I paid to put me into intense pain.
Now, I take it, I have a European editor of my psyche? OK. What are your rates?

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]]> By: Brigitte http://johnrlong.com/2007/04/10/tis-spring-and-a-young-mans-fancy/#comment-294 Wed, 11 Apr 2007 04:52:48 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/2007/04/10/tis-spring-and-a-young-mans-fancy/#comment-294 You’ve said it yourself in your last entry, John. YOU ARE BORED WITH YOURSELF.

So you expect a partner to lead you out of boredom? That won’t work, I’m afraid. Any therapist should be able to tell you why or you should get a new one.

If you need a partner to cover a huge inner void, you’re looking for a partner for the wrong reasons. Why don’t you try to read stuff like “The Road Less Travelled” et al again. There are huge libraries of books out there to tell you that being in love with the feeling of falling in love (this is, from all I read, IMO is what it basically boils down to with you – since you choose to share your private thoughts with the whole world..) is no solution at all.

Start with yourself. When was an addiction to alcohol replaced by an addiction to finding “the perfect partner”, for example.?

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