Interesting you brought up this topic of censoring ourselves, because just last night at the grocery store I noticed myself barely even looking around anymore, let alone looking into a man’s eyes as I pass by. I realized I don’t even pay attention out there.

I rarely, if ever, compliment a man on how he dresses, because the last time I simply said, “Nice hat,” I was repeatedly dogged for a date. I wanted to scream, “I’m much more interested in your hat!”

Commenting on what a woman is wearing, is not flirting in my book. It IS flirting if you happen to do so in the presence of a date, however, as well as flashing a lit-up smile. BIG no-no. The point being, stay attentive and make the date all about her – at all times, AS IF she really is The One (or one of the ones).

As for the womanizer thing, I don’t see how your clothes are at all relevant. Then again, I’ve always preferred a sharp dressed man. Now, I’d be thrilled to find one without food or underarm stains. I do look at shoes, but mostly to notice the condition.

If you don’t want to be viewed as a womanizer, my advice would be to only be seen dating one woman at a time, which can be tricky if you have females in the friends category. Perhaps sending out a press release is in order?

Whatever you do, don’t ever go up to a woman and say, “Wanna kickit?” The phrase doesn’t match your suit or your shoes. Trust me.

Compliments or smiles or flirtations are generally welcome by all women no matter who gives them. If those behaviors invade my space, or, as Mary says, are so effusive that it makes me feel more self-conscious than complimented, then I’m annoyed. If the compliment seems insincere, then I’m skeptical. Again agreeing with Mary, if a guy is drunk, I’m going to throw that baby out with the bathwater – all rancid.

I dated Jesse because he was a slow “mover”. He is funny, engaging, inventive. He was clearly interested in what I had to say as well as how I looked. He showed me a great deal of respect. That sort of light elongated flirting courtship works for my personality. Once we started dating, he maintained his humor and interest in me, and he showed me total loyalty. Some women, I’m sure, want the whirlwind.

You are a flirt, Dad. It’s just part of who you are and those of us who know you love and appreciate that about you.