Blogblah!!! » Obama http://johnrlong.com I just blather on and on about stuff that interests me, mostly politics and sex and sometimes movies and art. Wed, 07 Dec 2011 03:49:17 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 Thinking Thursday (hilariously updated postscript) http://johnrlong.com/2011/06/30/thinking-thursday/ http://johnrlong.com/2011/06/30/thinking-thursday/#comments Thu, 30 Jun 2011 19:26:58 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=3534
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Looking for a Hero by George Oswalt

You will find me at the JRB Gallery on the Paseo tomorrow evening. I can’t wait for this opening.

Tonight, I’ll be on lower Bricktown in front of the Harkins Theater from 7:30 to 9:30 p.m. watching Cami Stinson. Watch this and you’ll know why I’ll be out tonight.

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Daily Kos on Oklahoma’s 2d Congressional District election in wake of Rep. Dan Boren announcing he won’t seek re-election:

Yesterday morning, ex-Rep. Brad Carson emailed me to let me know that his plans have changed and he will not be seeking his old seat back in the wake of Dan Boren’s retirement. Fortunately, Democrats have a strong bench here despite the red hue of the district, and there are several other possible candidates, including ex-state Sen. Ken Corn (who previously said he’s “very likely” to run) and state Rep. Ben Sherrer. The Hotline also mentions state Sen. Josh Breechen as a possible GOP candidate.

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When Ezra Klein at Washington Post looked at the deficit negotiations, he found the GOP rejected their own proposals and walked out. Who’s the dick?

So when the GOP’s economic policy team sat down to make the strongest case they could for growth-inducing deficit reduction, they recommended a mix (of) 85:15 (blogblah’s note: of spending cuts to tax increases), not a 100:0 mix. And then, when the Obama administration agreed to an 83:17 mix, the Republican leadership walked out of the room and demanded that taxes be excluded from the deal altogether. How do you negotiate with that?

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Here’s a novel way to get past the debt ceiling crisis: rely on the 14th Amendment and just ignore it. According to CNN Money, it’s one of the answers to the puzzle proposed by the Treasury Secretary, Tim Geithner.

The 14th Amendment states: “The validity of the public debt of the United States, authorized by law, including debts incurred for payment of pensions and bounties for services in suppressing insurrection or rebellion, shall not be questioned.”

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The chairman of the state legislative ethics committee in Indiana may have a slight problem, according to local reports.

a very attractive 26 year old woman who has connections to a strip club in Lawrenceburg, Indiana was in the car with 59 year old Republican State Representative Robert Mechlenborg at 12:08AM when he was pulled over by the Indiana State Police and subsequently tested positive for alcohol and Viagra.

Blogblah note: enjoy the schadenfreude my droogies.

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Time magazine editor and MSNBC political analyst for the Morning Joe show Mark Halperin gets suspended and apologized for saying President Obama was “kind of a dick” during last night’s press conference. Obama should consider the source.

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If you do nothing else today, please watch THIS VIDEO. Please, please please. DO IT! It’s the most inspiring thing I’ve seen in an age. It will change your attitude.

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Post Script:
I haven’t really had much to say about the New York legislature passing gay marriage equality legislation because, well, I don’t know much about it. However, I couldn’t resist the video below. In it, Howard Zinn, a counter-historian (my formulation), introduces part of an oral history of the so-called Stonewall Rebellion and actor Tim Robbins reads (with such wonderful verve) the eyewitness testimony of Martin Duberman. This is just so good, it’s awesome sauce!

Tim Robbins reads Martin Duberman, “Stonewall” from Voices of a People's History on Vimeo.

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December 10, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/12/10/december-10-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/12/10/december-10-2009/#comments Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:24:47 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2685 I have a nasty cold. I tried hard not to catch it last weekend, and put it off until this week it seems but it finally caught up with me. I really do just want to have my body thrown onto the plague cart; “Bring out your dead!” I’m way too arrogant and self centered to believe I’ve got anything like a “common” cold. It has to be something special, you know?
Anyways, I’m using every scientific nostrum I can lay hands on. Chicken soup, check. Zinc cough lozenges, check. Heavy doses of Vitamin C, check. Blow nose, wipe nose, cough, repeat. And repeat. And repeat. I’ve reached that place where I no longer can wipe my nose, I have to blot since I’ve rubbed my upper lip raw.
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YUK! I took a shower but kept my hair dry, and never put on clothes Wednesday, just bummed around the house in my PJs and robe. Like many American men, I’m a real crybaby about being sick. I had to stop writing this post here to heat up some Theraflu powder, which I used to slug down another 1500 mg of Vitamin C. Oh, how yummy. ::snark::
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I want to say a word here about the politics of the health care debate in Congress.
Yes, I know all the papers and blogs and Fox talking heads can’t quit bringing you the latest breathless commentary. It’s bull. I mean it’s bull if it is coming from Hannity on the right or Jane Hamshire at FireDogLake on the left.
Here’s why:
this is just the legislative process, that’s all. We aren’t yet at the “nut cutting”, which will come later. Bills go through committees in the House and in the Senate. We’ve seen that and health care has been through five congressional committees. Everyone got all in a snit about that stuff, but it’s just routine.
Then, House Speaker Nancy Pelosi brought the bill to the House floor and it passed with exactly the number of votes it needed, which doesn’t mean it barely passed, it means that Nancy gave a pass to endangered Democrats even if they were persuadable on a final bill.
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Now, Harry Reid, the majority leader in the Senate, has a health care bill on the Senate floor. Now, everyone is hanging on every word that Ben Nelson, Joe Lieberman, Olympia Snowe, etc., have to say. I don’t care what they have to say and don’t really think anyone else does either because they are just grandstanding and demogoguing the bill.
The Senate will pass a health care bill with 60 votes before Christmas.
It was a foregone conclusion before this latest “compromise” of the public option.
Then, and ONLY then, do we get to the hard part. The conference committee that tries to put together one bill from the House bill and the Senate bill where the two bills differ.
All of that will be done behind closed doors because it’ll be a butcher shop of blood and guts everywhere.
Some kind of sausage will emerge as a single bill for the consideration of both houses.
Everyone thinks Obama has been all “hands off” about this process so far and is whining and crying about him using his political muscle to stop the abortion ban or support the public option or whatever.
Hooey.
White House staffers have been part of every discussion behind the scenes and you can be sure have directed and spoken for the president about all the tiny details in a 2,000 page bill.
However, the president has no business being ham-handed during the legislative process. Senators and Representatives are expected to do their homework and make compromises and be creative in finding middle ground.
Once we have a conference bill, then we start to look at presidential power, but only then.
Then, when the conference bill comes to the floor, is when the hard stuff happens. That’s when every single congressperson, GOP and Dem, liberal, moderate, conservative and/or independent, has to look at their hole cards and decide whether to bluff, fold or play. NO ONE will be perfectly happy with the bill. EVERYONE will have to eat something they don’t like that’s good for them. THEN, the arm twisting really begins. THEN, the president can start talking about who he will campaign for or against, raise money for or against, whether he will veto it because he doesn’t like this or that.
I’ll give an example.
Everyone on the left, where I mostly hang out, wants to nuke Joe Lieberman and take away his committee chairmanship.
However, you get to make that threat only once between now and four years from now when he’s up for re-election. You can only take away that committee once.
Do you want to make that threat and give up that power over Joe when the stakes are a single provision in a huge bill or do you want to play that card when all of health care reform is at stake when the conference committee bill comes forward? Easy. You hold that card until it is the final winning play, not in the middle of the game, but at the last, hoping to get what you want for a lesser card until the last moment.
I strongly advise everyone to just avert your eyes until we get farther down the line. You don’t want to know what’s going into your sausage. Wait until it’s cooked and you can have a taste without having to think about how many pig snouts are in each bite. Just like Bismark noted, those who like law and sausage should not watch either be made.
Here’s a video to help you through the next few days. It was from The Onion last year, so you’ll have to adapt, but I feel my readers can do this:

Today Now!: How To Pretend You Give A Shit About The Election
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Maps 3 passed in OKC. I voted for it reluctantly and have lots of mixed feelings about the blank check we’ve written the City Council bozos and the Chamber of Commerce, the City Council’s bosses. I think there’s a slim chance the money will go to things I like, a good chance that people are lining their pockets out of the public treasury unfairly, and that firemen and policemen will take it in the shorts before all is said and done. However, my vote came down to this: vote no and have no chance of my hometown getting better, including getting better public transport and some things I do like, or vote yes and have a slim chance I’ll like how things turn out. One thing I do know going in — working people will pay more than their fair share for stuff that will unfairly benefit the rich.
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Backing off politics a little, the nascent journalist in me is very sad today. Both Kirkus Review and Editor and Publisher folded today. E&P had been the journalism profession “bible” for more than 100 years.
Journalists and journalism just has not really figured out this digital age. They’ve been in denial for at least 20 years and it’s catching up to them as they watch subscribers and advertising dollars fall like a rock. An old time saying in the business was “if it bleeds, it leads” and that crutch was part of the downfall because so-called “spot” news left newspapers and magazines at least half a news cycle behind broadcast and the internet. Why buy a newspaper that was written and produced yesterday when the news of this morning’s car wrecks on the interstate are no where to be found in print, but is everywhere on my iPhone and laptop? What print journalists can do better than their competitors is provide context and expertise, but that’s expensive and much more difficult than the “he said, she said” crap they got away with since Nixon was president. As much as I loved being a journalist, I’m glad I wasn’t there hanging on by fingernails during the past 20 years or so.
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As much as I’d like to ramble on, I just don’t feel well enough to do so.

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December 2, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/12/02/december-2-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/12/02/december-2-2009/#comments Wed, 02 Dec 2009 16:10:51 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2658
shut up, he explained

shut up, he explained


Obama’s speech at West Point yesterday left me with nothing, really, but cognitive dissonance. A Nobel Peace Laureate wants to put 100,000 American troops into Afghanistan to kill brown people for peace. Right. No, wrong. Uhm…

Just about 40 years ago today, I think I was carrying a sign that read “Killing for peace is like f***ing for chastity”. Obama said this isn’t like Vietnam and maybe he’s right, but some things sure seem to be the same.

The only thing I know for sure is that my Red State Republican friends who tell me they don’t like this president because they are birthers or some other form of craziness are going to be told by me that anyone who doesn’t support my president in a time of war is an unpatriotic traitor. Been waiting to do that for a while.

Do we know yet whether the troops that are going to Kabul will be troops we are pulling out of Bagdhad? Do we have any iron-clad guarantees that the wall of troops we will put in Kandahar will be part of a Pakistani effort on the other side of the border?

Sure hope that Rep. David Obey, who proposed a war tax on the superrich to pay for this, holds the GOP feet to the fire on what they want to cut to pay for this, etc., so at least we have some exposure of Republican perfidy.

What does the real presidential power think? You know, Sen. Joe Lieberman. Has he told us how the world is shaped yet?

Obama mentioned that there will be support civilians also going to Kabul, but do we know how many and of what kind?

One thing that does seem to advance the ball from the Bush Administration is a clear committment by us to withdraw on some timeline from both Iraq and Afghanistan, I’m just not sure that the getting out part is as clear as the getting in deeper part.

I know this: when the enemy is stateless, attacking any nation is just an illusion. Somehow, the warlords in Waziristan, the Northwest Territories of Pakistan, Somalia and Yemen and other “failed” states, all have to get the idea that it’s a bad idea to let Al Qaeda have a place to rest their heads. I don’t think it takes 100,000 Marines to get that idea across, but we seem too stupid and clumsy to figure that out.

Colbert seems similarly confused:

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November 11, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/11/10/november-11-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/11/10/november-11-2009/#comments Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:10:34 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2599 Today, President Obama spoke at a memorial at Ft. Hood. Of those killed, wounded, and those who ran to help in the emergency, he said:

“We need not look to the past for greatness, because it is before our very eyes.”

Here is John Dickerson’s summary of Obama’s speech in Slate online:

It was a song of America’s values, sung by a man who has been questioned, since the Democratic primaries, for being, as Hillary Clinton’s strategist Mark Penn put it, “not fundamentally American.” During the campaign, he had to make television ads insisting he shared American values. As president, he has contended with opponents who compare him with Hitler because of his … health care plan. Today’s speech is unlikely to mollify his most ardent foes, and it won’t make health care reform any easier. But it should make it harder for anyone to question his patriotism.

Marc Ambinder at The Atlantic Online thought it was “Best Speech Obama’s Given Since … Maybe Ever”:

Today, at Ft. Hood. I guarantee: they’ll be teaching this one in rhetoric classes. It was that good. My gloss won’t do it justice. Yes, I’m having a Chris Matthews-chill-running-up-my-leg moment, but sometimes, the man, the moment and the words come together and meet the challenge. Obama had to lead a nation’s grieving; he had to try and address the thorny issues of Islam and terrorism; to be firm; to express the spirit of America, using familiar, comforting tropes in a way that didn’t sound trite

If you have not heard or read his 15 minute address, I believe it will be a speech quoted and read for decades to come. It brought tears to my eyes.

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October 11, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/10/11/october-11-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/10/11/october-11-2009/#comments Sun, 11 Oct 2009 19:31:15 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2521
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Harry Truman integrated the armed forces with a stroke of the pen and Obama could do the same for gays in the military. Instead, he gave his 2007 campaign speech to the Human Rights Campaign dinner last night, once more promising he would do something great, but just not now, just not yet, wait some more.
The fierce urgency of the end of my projected second term, you might say.

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In a column in today’s New York Times, Frank Rich writes about a topic that’s been really bothering me lately: why the hell are the discredited neocons — who have been consistently wrong for more than a decade about everything foreign policy — still on the Sunday talk shows?
When does Stephanopolous look William Kristol right in the eye and say: is this like when you said the Iraq war would be over in 6 weeks? Is this the same as when you told us we’d be greeted as liberators in Baghdad? Is there any part of the “robust” assertion of American military power you advocate that has actually succeeded in doing good for us?
And, yes, I would include Sen. McCain, who has a foreign policy that is based on nationalistic fighter pilot chutzpah and not any serious and in-depth study of global issues, and who, I will remind you, lost the presidential elections rather badly.
They aren’t foreign policy experts, they just play one on TV.

There is a real foreign policy debate about realistic strategic options, but you wouldn’t know it by reading the popular press or watching cable television.
It’s only our survival at stake, why would we want a credible discussion?

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The Conventional Wisdom now has it that Obama’s Nobel Peace Prize is a net bad thing for the president. Conventional Wisdom being what it is, it’s wrong again. A Nobel Peace Prize is a good thing for a president and for this country. Any other interpretation is gloss and illusionary thinking by people who wanted a foregone conclusion.
A Nobel Peace Prize is only a bad thing to those who need defense contractors to keep the money flowing and have such a strong penis/cojones envy that they love war.

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We are on the cusp, btw, about health care. All the attention has been on the Baucus bill coming out of the Senate Finance Committee, but that’s only one of five bills that have come out of two senate and three house panels.
It seems to me that it’s time for Reid and Pelosi AND OBAMA to say to Republicans that the Baucus bill is our attempt at bipartisan health care reform. It’s as much as the GOP is going to get. They can agree to drop the filibuster and vote for the Baucus bill and if they fail to do that and the Democratic Party must go it alone, then it will do so behind a bill that satisfies the progressives and the regressives can bite it.
The “whip count” stories I’ve read indicate that Pelosi can count on at least 210 votes of the 218 she needs to pass something like universal/single payer health care. Reid has about 51 votes without Joe Biden.
Since the GOP is going to run against the health care bill in whatever form it passes, why not pass a bill that Democrats can be proud of and defend?
One more time, does anyone else notice that the GOP emperors are naked?

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Speaking of naked Republicans, today’s Daily Disappointment carries a story purporting to examine if U.S. Sen. Tom Coburn (R-OK) will be politically damaged by reports that he’s up to his neck in the U.S. Sen. John Ensign (R-NV) sex and payoff scandal.
The grey lady of OKC says no, Tom will be just fine.
They may be right.
What Dem is gearing up to fight him? No one.
After seeing what happened to Andrew Rice against Inhofe, can’t say I blame the Dems much.
Screw that, yeah, I think OK Dems are a bunch of cowards and lickspittles, groveling at the feet of ignorant fundamentalist preachers.

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In personal stuff, George Oswalt’s opening in Norman Friday was, by my lights, a huge success. The work was vivid, thought provoking and challenged both the eye and the mind. Dinner afterward at Victoria’s on campus corner with the artist, his wife and a dozen others was delicious and filled with bonhomie. Love you, George, think you’re great.

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October 10, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/10/09/october-10-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/10/09/october-10-2009/#comments Sat, 10 Oct 2009 05:47:00 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2503 its-not-fascism
For some people, Obama’s Nobel Peace Prize will never be as good as the one Bush deserved after invading Iraq.
There was an incredible amount of commentary on the event in the punditocracy today. Look at Memorandum and be amazed. Josh Marshall gathered up the sleaziest and Andrew Sullivan looked for the most witty.
I Twittered a little bit about it, as you can read on the right hand column of my feed.
I had a personal reaction to news he won the prize: I felt like all of us had won it by turning our backs on the past four years of the neocons. It’s a big reason why I voted for him.
You had to know that his election with his proletarian background and Muslim name would make the world see us as more grown up and less like trigger happy cowboys. People who care about peace worldwide must have breathed a sigh of relief at his election. Think about it. He may not yet have ended the two wars he was handled, but he’s darn less likely to start any elective wars and that must seem like a blessing from Norway’s point of view.
cosmic hand of god

cosmic hand of god


The congnitive dissonence of being a patriotic Republican who thinks America losing the Olympics is a good thing and an American president selected as Nobel Peace Laureate is a bad thing. My country, right or wrong. My country over party. Boom! Heads explode.
Watching little internet snippits of Fox commentators has amused the hell out of me.
But, I couldn’t help but notice that the putative grown ups in the GOP, the elected officials, kept it short and gracious.
And, last week, Bob Dole and Bill Frist endorsed Obamacare.
I think someone is starting to read the right polling.
I think the American people have lost their taste for abortion, gays and guns because they think war, the economy and health care is more important. I don’t think most of us have time to worry about the birthers and racist blather from the fringes.
I’m proud of us and I hope we do more and more to earn the honor, it’s a task that can’t be completed, as it should be.
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P.S. I loved this from the Obama State Department. Don’t mess with Hillary.

10.09.09 — 6:37PM

Snarking It Up In Foggy Bottom
A State Department spokesperson, commenting on the Obama’s Nobel:

Certainly from our standpoint, this gives us a sense of momentum — when the United States has accolades tossed its way, rather than shoes.

Rimshot, please.

–David Kurtz

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August 23, 2009 updated http://johnrlong.com/2009/08/23/august-23-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/08/23/august-23-2009/#comments Sun, 23 Aug 2009 06:16:30 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2363 FOR MY SISTER, MINDOVERMARY, SO SHE’LL HAVE A SONG

shut up, he explained

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AND JESUS SAID

Roger Ebert says that the Obama health care plan is a “moral imperative,” quoting Mathew 25 in support. Very interesting essay linking back to an earlier post in which he admits to making the mistake of favoring the real, literal, logical plan rather than some imaginary one.

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P.S. The health care stuff was too serious for me for this lovely Sunday afternoon, so here is a “mental health break” video:

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May 31, 2009 updated at 3 p.m., 5 p.m., midnight http://johnrlong.com/2009/05/31/may-31-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/05/31/may-31-2009/#comments Sun, 31 May 2009 15:15:02 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2163 (last update) THIS is very cool. Move your cursor! Thanks to Megan B!

The New York Times reports that a Wichita, KS, abortion doctor was shot and killed while attending his church Sunday morning.

(2d UPDATE) I found some “conservative” reactions to the above at Andrew Sullivan, and they are really shocking in their calloused view of this event, in my opinion.

Not long ago, Republicans were outraged at newly appointed Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano because her agency had released a threat assessment concerning extreme conservatives.

shut up, he explained

shut up, he explained

However, it seems to me that today’s news reinforces the idea that the right wing in America has gone over the edge. None of this seems to even speak to those survivalists/militia types that skulk around in the great northwest and along the Mexican border (plus, of course, our own local armed crazies along the Arkansas/OK border). The greater radicalization of the already armed extreme right seems rising and that is frightening in its prospects to me. G. Gordon Liddy (don’t even think about getting a link from me) saying on the radio he hoped no important court decisions were made when Justice Sotomayor’s menstrual cycle was near makes me ill with disgust. How can such vile gutterances (intentional made-up word) get into the mainstream of information? How can this be acceptable to decent people of ANY political stripe? God bless us, every one.

A FOLLOW-UP

I reported the comment mentioned in the last post to Politico and it’s been taken off the thread. However, this story appears in today’s online Salon, noting that a Pennsylvania newspaper had to drop and report to the Secret Service a classified ad that appears to invite the assassination of President Obama. You can be sure these right wing fuctards think torture is just fine and dandy. How did they ever become part of the civil discourse of our times? It’s disgusting, frighting, horrible and unacceptable.

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May 30, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/05/30/may-30-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/05/30/may-30-2009/#comments Sat, 30 May 2009 14:21:11 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=2161 Ben Smith at Politico had a short mention of President Obama going to a burger joint, 5 Guys, in D.C. The anti-Obama spin on the event is that he met a guy who works for the government in an agency, NGIA, National Geospatial Intelligence Agency, and Obama asked him what the agency and the individual does. The story is neither here nor there to me. What DID get my attention was this comment among the many nasty, right wing comments that used race and tried to call the president dumb:

where will obongo’s dealy plaza be?

Posted By: cuthean | May 29, 2009 at 09:02 PM

Shocking and horrible.

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February 5, 2009 http://johnrlong.com/2009/02/04/february-5-2009/ http://johnrlong.com/2009/02/04/february-5-2009/#comments Thu, 05 Feb 2009 03:58:05 +0000 http://www.johnrlong.com/?p=1484
BECAUSE I SAID SO

BECAUSE I SAID SO


Do you remember the line from Desiderata: “Avoid loud and aggressive people”? King Solomon in his Proverbs and the Tao and others all warn against people who are quick to anger.
I have to admit that sometimes I’m that guy.
I have a temper. I frequently must apologize for things I say when I’m mad. Even worse, as some of the women who’ve dated me will testify, are the things I write in letters and emails when I’m pissed off and mad.

One of the more wise things ever said to me is about anger: Anger is hurt turned inside out. This from a tipsy shrink in a Tulsa bar about 30-35 years ago. It’s still true.
Mostly, anger isn’t a first emotion, it’s a second one. What comes before anger is hurt: someone steps on our toes in some way. Mostly, we’re hurt when we think we will not get something we want very much or that we will lose something we have and care about.
In many ways, this grandfather still has a child’s temper. I get angry the most and fastest about some jibe at my self esteem or when I think I’ve had my fabulous ego somehow punctured. I can throw a real hissy fit when I don’t get my way.
I’ve written women I really care about some pretty rough assaults on their personal dignity. Of course, I do this rather upscale — my wordsmithing goes into high gear so that there’s no mere namecalling or “flaming”. No, no. When I write a letter to an opposing attorney or someone else who has offended me, I do so at the very height of the language. Often, I write these missives with keen psychological insight and deft punctures of their assertions with cunning logical syllogisms of my own.
At least that’s what I think when I’m carefully crafting these social A-Bombs.
Solomon says that not only should you avoid a man with a quick temper, you should never listen to his advice.
An angry man, this angry man in all events, is likely to be surrounded by turmoil and trouble. When acting in anger, my actions are likely to be rash, irrational and hurtful.
And, I get predictable results.
People don’t like to hear my verbal lashings.
They don’t respond well.
I’ve never had anyone who received such a missive or tongue-lashing say, “Oh, well, I never thought of it that way before. You are so right that I’ll have to change my whole life and way of thinking to accommodate you, John.”
After repeating this same mistake over and over again for about a half century, I finally started doing something different a couple of years ago.
Oh, I still write the email or letter. I even edit it and hone it to a fine steel rapier that slashes and plunges deep into the human dignity and self respect of the intended recipient.
Then, I get a good night’s rest.
The next day, I delete it and write something else less incendiary.
When I write the second letter, I have to keep in mind that a kind word will turn away their wrath.
I have to keep in mind that I’m not perfect and that maybe I’ve done something to deserve their thrust against my self esteem and ego. Maybe instead of an angry reply what’s needed is an apology from me.
Maybe it’s possible to seek a compromise that would be impossible in an all out war of words.
I can’t stop having times when I feel hurt and I can’t stop having times when I get angry.
What I can do is stop acting on that anger and hurt.
It’s so much easier for me to hold my tongue (restrain my pen, stop typing) at the front end than it is to try and back off and explain my way out of the mess after I’ve set fire to my hair.
Now that I’ve figured out the whole email and letter thing, it would be lots better if I could only work out the installation of the delete button on my tongue.
SINATRA SPEAKS
Chariman of the Bored

Chariman of the Bored


Muffy, if you’re waiting on an apology from me, you’d best watch the weather report from Hell for news of an incoming freeze because there will be ice skating on that pond of burning excrement before you’ll hear me say I’m sorry. Rulers of the universe don’t apologize, that’s for minions like him. I have no idea what he’s thinking. I’m a predator. We don’t apologize. We aren’t sorry. We do not display weakness in front of lesser beings.
It’s a good thing that cats rule the world.

TODAY’S THOUGHT

A proper apology has three parts:
1. What I did was wrong
2. I feel badly that I hurt you
3. How do I make this better?

The Last Lecture, Chapter 47
Randy Pausch

I READ THE NEWS TODAY, OH BOY

Obama Admits Appointment Mistakes

FOR NO REASON

The secrets of seduction revealed — hopes this works for you!

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