March 24, 2009 (updated)

Vintage RayBans

Vintage RayBans


I chose carefully the thumbnail photo of myself for this little post because it’s a picture of me that shows a woman’s dilemma: love to hate that kind of guy, hate that they love that kind of guy. Or, at least that’s the conclusion I draw from a Huffpost column by a middle aged widow, “Why I’m Alone.” The piece reminds me in large part of Flibbertigibbet’s frequent postings about her dear departed Jay and subsequent closet moments. I’ll be interested to hear/read her reaction to this woman’s reasons for not having a man in her midlife, some of which, btw, sound a little like “sour grapes” to me — “no one can take the place of the special man I was with” — yeah, right. It seems to her there’s a dearth of special men out there, but what I wondered is how many special men are going after a bitter and dowdy middle aged woman who will always be comparing you to a benchmark set by a dead guy she’s idealized the hell out of. But maybe that’s just me and maybe, as MCARP says, your mileage may vary.
Speaking of Mike C, he seems to be holding out well in the absence of longrydehome, whom I’m told is out of the country. He’s bought himself a new stereo and is marveling at the technological advances in the 35 years since he last bought a stereo. All is calm for Mike as long as he’s not in the stream of life and he’s got his animals and warm, fuzzy red blanket.
There seem to be more creature comforts on 15th Street than in a cave on a cold mountain, but perhaps satori can be found wherever you are. I sure as hell wouldn’t know.
I still really don’t have time to do much blogging other than this hit-and-run, driveby stuff and I’ve got photos from Tulsa to sort through before I can talk about last weekend, if I can get to it at all. I’m running hard trying to drum up some business so I can keep paying for the internet, so if you know of someone who needs a good and honest lawyer at rock bottom fee schedules, please send them to me. I really need the work/income.
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2 thoughts on “March 24, 2009 (updated)

  1. nina

    Sour grapes? You betcha. I felt nauseated after reading many of her reasons.

    (Good God, do I sound like that? I sure hope not. If so, please tell me!)

    I understand taking breaks from the dating world, tending to your solitude and retreating when you need to. That’s great, but removing yourself completely? Really? Why? Because you don’t want heartbreak – ever? Who does?

    My Jay was wonderful and very special to me, but he could be a big asshole like anyone and readily admitted it. How he was “special” in my eyes is that he had enough self-awareness to admit when he did not know what he was doing. He knew his issues and was open, honest and human about the whole thing. That is what I continue to seek…perhaps I’m holding out for too much myself. I don’t know.

    Eternally optimistic or delusional – you pick, but I think there are plenty of great men out there; belching, farting men who rock from time to time and are special enough to be loved greatly.

    But that’s just me.

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